Problem Solving – Men vs. Women

Advice for men.

(Ladies, feel free to print this out or forward it to your clueless guy.)

Why is she so upset with me? I was just trying to help.

Every time I see a question like this from a mature male, I wonder how he ever got a second date much less, stayed married for years and years. Men and women are natural problem solvers but that doesn’t mean they go through the same process. Men meet a problem with an immediate desire to solve it. A list of possible solutions jumps into our minds and we start weighing the outcome of every one. Granted, for some men, avoiding or ignoring the problem is a legitimate solution but still it is part of his thinking process. When the woman he cares about is upset about a problem in her life, he naturally wants to help. So what does he do? Immediately, he launches into his problem solving mode by offering a list of possible solutions…”Here is what you need to do.” or “Have you tried this or that?” WRONG!! All of her raw emotions turn to frustration and rage focused on her clueless partner. What these men do not understand is summarized very well in this quote by John Gray:

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Show Your Love

Dear Rick, How do I show “the love of my life”, my husband, how much he means to me?

Dear “Texas Gal”,
Hopefully the “love of your life” is not an idiot and can tell how important he is to you by all the things, big and small that you already do for him. But of course, even the best men are pigs or rather hogs and will gladly slop up any sweetness you throw their way.  So, if you have the time and energy to spare, here are some suggestions:

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Solutions to YOUR Problems

Baby Boomer problems have solutions. Health, wealth and passion are the goals in a second adult life. Rick Perkins and www.addedyears.com offer practical solutions to problems ranging from finding a great hiking vacation to understanding swallowing problems or having great sex after forty.

Relax BEFORE Sex?

Sexually active people in their twenties or thirties probably don’t need to relax before having sex.? But if you are single and over forty, there may be many reasons to be uptight and/or nervous before going to bed with your next date.? A few butterflies in the stomach may enhance a sexual encounter, but knots in your stomach do not bode well for a great experience.? Worried about:

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