Hi Rick,
Got a question for you. I’m in my 50’s and need to know.
As we know when men get a certain age they tend to loose their erection may it be by age, or a medical condition, or lack of desire but yet I’ve heard men say they are still sexually aroused. How can that be if they can’t have an erection??
I hope I’m not embarrassing anyone by asking this question but I’m curious just how a man feels sexually when an erection is not possible. Can you answer this question for me?
Brenda
I have a large list on the main membership site for basic computer tips.
Casual computer users can sometimes be amazed how much easier a task can be when they are shown a basic tip. Here is an example:
Enlarge Your View
When you are browsing the Internet, you may want to take a closer look at a particular page. While that page is on the screen, hold down the Ctrl key and press the plus key (+). Each time you press the + key the image will get larger. While holding down the Ctrl key, press the minus key (-) and the image will get smaller.
Hold Ctrl key press + Enlarges
Hold Ctrl key press – Shrinks
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If your mouse has a scroll wheel, you can try this: Hold down the Ctrl Key while you roll the wheel forward or backward.
Try it.
Rick Perkins
Happy Browsing! Send me your questions rick@addedyears.com
How often do you hear, “When you reach a certain age, that’s what happens”. Don’t fall for that line!? That can be a self-fulfilling mindset.
If you are having doubts about your aging brain, make sure you are following these seven steps to boosting your brain power.
1. Engage yourself in a Regular Exercise
Do simple exercises like a simple walk or jog. It may not be as intense as a full-blown work-out. You just have to keep your body physically fit and active.
Simple work-outs may trigger the release of neurochemicals known as endorphins. These chemicals are responsible for making us feel happy and by feeling happier, a more positive effect on the brain can be observed.
2. Supplement your Diet
Natural supplements are believed to have a good effect on the brain. These supplements not only keep your body healthier, they also maintain the fitness of your brain; thus resulting to better brain power! These supplements are so popular that they can be found anywhere, from your local health and food store up to the web pages of the internet. We pass along any natural remedies that grab our attention in the member’s site.
3. Use your Brain
If you are to exercise your body, you should exercise your brain as well. Use your brain muscles more often ? think and learn. You may read, talk with other people or even play educational games. Any activity that can keep your brain working effectively may be tried out.
4. Play Games
Choose games that will definitely have a good effect on your brain. Refrain from playing games which are “no-brainers.” Nowadays, most computer games are designed to exercise your brain, so all you have to do is to choose well the games that you will play. Gaming consoles are also following the fad into increasing brain function. So, do your part in boosting your brain power, play games that will increase your brain power.
5. Enjoy an Educational Hobby
Choose a hobby that will give you some lessons at the end of the activity. This will not be such a difficult task since most of the time, we learn something from our experiences. Just be sure to do things that are not monotonous. Your hobby should be something that will help you learn new things every time you perform it. This way, you will be able to use some parts of your brain which are left unused before.
6. Sleep Well
Sleeping is the time when your body rebuilds and recharges itself. Most professionals believe that you should sleep for at least six to eight hours a day. Aside from these hours, you should also try to take ten-to-thirty minute power naps. After these refreshing sleeps and naps, you will surely feel energized to take on more activities for the day. From personal experience, I have found that sleep deprivation has a long list of bad side-effects. Memory loss is one of the first to appear.? Do not deprive yourself of sleep, and you will then realize that your brain will function better with more hours of sleep.
7. Relax
Because of the complexities of our society today, your brain is exhausted just as much as your body. Thus, you should take the time to relax and cleanse your mind of the worries and stresses that might overwhelm your thoughts. You may want to try on spas or meditations to give your mind a break from all the hassle. After the relaxation, you will feel that you are prepared to take on another complex day! This is how you make better your brain’s health and performance.
Rick
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My surveys say the number one Baby Boomer problem is “how to make and keep more money“.? No matter how I seem to phrase the question, the number two problem is also money related; “Where do I find affordable health care?“? Now that I have shown you how to create passive streams of income with an Internet marketing business (A Smart Person’s Guide to A Great Retirement) , are you ready to solve some more problems?? First of all, isn’t it great the number of problems that can actually be solved by having money?
Baby Boomers are now between 46 and 64 years old.? After the Wealth issues,? it didn’t surprise me that Health issues jumped up.? I will continue to post Natural and Alternative solutions to our most common health concerns.? I am not a doctor and cannot give medical advice.? I can only provide what may have worked for other people and suggest that you investigate further and bring up the topic with your physician.
Healthy eating habits and moderate exercise continues to fuel the desire for a Great Sex Life but I’m amazed at how little some people have learned since their teenage years.? It is certainly not too late to learn how to WOW your partner with multiple orgasms and unbelievable good feelings.? And if you don’t have a partner, learn to use online dating sites in a safe and effective manner.? These are not insurmountable problems!? Some solutions are easier than others but so far, If you are willing to do the work, I’ve got you covered.
So I’m now open to finding solutions for very specific problems.? What will it take to make the coming years the very best of your life?
If you are a member of? “addedyears.com“, you already have access to some of these solutions.? If you have a specific question, ask it here (in the Comments section below) and I’ll try to point you in the right direction.? Be active and curious and stay out of the “rut”.????
Dear Rick,
First of all, I’m a good guy. I’m almost 50 and was married and divorced when I was very young. Somewhere along the line I started dating a crazy woman and have been on and off with her for over 12 years!? Every time I break up with her, she finds a way to see me again and I just fall under her spell. Yes, we have great passionate sex and she really knows how to push all my buttons. Sometimes I think I’m lazy because the sex is so good and so easy. But she is not good for me. She drains my assets and doesn’t like me to see my family or friends. We really don’t have much in common but no woman has ever come close to turning me on the way she does.? What can I do to break this spell she has on me?
Mike G. -Chicago
Low, grouchy, fed-up, and bored are all words you could use to describe what I’m like on those days and I’m probably not the best company. The thing is, days like those are part of the deal with being human it’s not an elective. There will always be off days, and that’s okay.
But what happens when you get a whole string of those off-days, maybe lasting weeks, months or even years? Too many of us say that we’re in a rut, feel stuck, fed-up, or bored and admit that we don’t want things to be that way, but we don’t know what to do to change. That’s the problem, when you’re in a rut, you don’t have the energy or motivation to change things for the better, and it’s tough to find the insight or resources you need to make that jump.
Here are five fun and easy ways you can use right now to climb, or better yet, leap, out of the rut and start to get something better for yourself.
Life tends to run smoothly when we establish systems and routines for things, but the problem comes when things run too smoothly and we become blinded to any ideas or choices that sit outside of our routine. All the stuff we do every day becomes the norm, running on auto-pilot, and it becomes our whole world.
Start with making one or two simple changes to your day – be it at breakfast time, your radio station, gym routine, route to work, lunch routine, etc. Don?t worry about what the changes are or whether they?re right or wrong, just make a couple of simple choices that will serve you well.
Doing something differently or changing parts of your routine, instantly takes you out of the norm and allows you to shake off the things that make you feel confined. Step out of your routine and you?ll be in a position where you?re able to make different choices, see things differently and get a different result.
Your intuition is a powerful ally, and we all have it even though you might not recognize it. The dictionary says that intuition is:
1.a. The act or faculty of knowing or sensing without the use of rational processes; immediate cognition.
1.b. Knowledge gained by the use of this faculty; a perceptive insight.
2. A sense of something not evident or deducible; an impression.
One of the best friends you’ll ever have in life is your intuition, and tuning in to it and learning to trust it is something that can have some truly remarkable effects. Accessing your intuition is a bit like working and developing a muscle, but unfortunately it can be harder to locate than a bicep or quadricep, which tend to stay in the same place. Here are some quick tips for accessing and trusting it:
* Practice maintaining an open-minded, playful, experimental, non-judgmental attitude. This is the most fertile ground to tap into your intuition.
* Practice making wild guesses in your everyday life. Guess what a salesperson’s name is, what a new person or place will look like or who’s calling on the phone. Don’t worry about getting it wrong, you’re just working that muscle.
* Try a few simple observation exercises in your daily life. Whether you’re in a restaurant, on a train, in a bar, or out shopping, practice noticing non-verbal behavior in others. Look for shifts in posture, eye movements, vocal tone or tempo, etc. Guess how they’re feeling or what they’re talking about.
Imagine you’re walking home from the supermarket with a couple of bags of groceries, but those bags have holes in them. You?re walking along merrily leaving a trail of your things behind you, but when you get home you unpack what?s left and ask, “Didn’t I have more than this?”
Nourishment is about plugging those holes in your life and making sure you have things that keep you feeling nourished ? nourished in your head, nourished in your heart, and nourished in your stomach. Remember that you can’t give away what you don’t have, and can’t spend energy you’ve already spent.
It doesn’t have to be the big things in life that nourish you and it’s often the simplest little thing that strikes a chord, makes you feel like yourself again, or makes you smile from ear to ear. Calling a friend, talking a walk in the park, or listening to your favorite song, are all examples. So what keeps you balanced? What relaxes you or makes you feel peaceful? What makes you feel like you again?
The fact is that you’re important enough to spend time taking care of yourself and it doesn’t matter what it is, just take the time to do it. If necessary, go as far as booking time in your diary. You’re the only one of you there is, so it’s your responsibility to make sure you’re okay.
Here’s something to play with: your Perfect Day. This idea came to me a few years ago when a good friend suddenly asked me “What would be your perfect day?” I’d never been asked that before and I found myself spontaneously making up a story, telling her about my Perfect Day from the moment my eyes flickered open to the moment my head hit the pillow.
I went through each part of the day telling her what I was doing, who I was with, where we were, how it felt and what happened next. Bit by bit and without even thinking about it, I’d put together a rich, colorful, exciting, and comforting day, which still holds true as my Perfect Day. The best part is that you can start introducing little bits of your Perfect Day into your real life or working to make some of it happen. For example, in part of my Perfect Day I help an individual find a special gift or talent they might have been overlooking for years. I’m Mr. FixIt, so I have to fix at least one thing in my perfect day. 🙂 That always puts a smile on someone’s face. My Perfect Day has now become like a good friend of mine whom I can call on whenever I want to.
So what’s your Perfect Day? Don’t think too much about it and don’t worry about it sounding silly or too grand. Just shoot from the hip and see what comes out naturally for you. Write down words, ideas, themes or a whole narrative, even draw pictures if you want to. Have fun with it, play with it, it’s your Perfect Day.
The Three F’s: Fun, Fulfillment, and Freedom – encompass a lot of what people are looking for in life, and also contain the solutions to having, doing and being those things. Here are some definitions,
Fun, n. – A source of enjoyment or pleasure; playful activity.
Ful-fill’ment, n. – To bring into actuality; to complete; a feeling of satisfaction at having achieved your desires.
Free-dom, n. – The capacity to exercise choice, free will; frankness or boldness; the absence of constraint in choice or action.
Read those again. Those things are huge, deep, and broad, and are a lot simpler than we make them.
Where are you in relation to each of the Three F’s? How much of each do you have right now? How much of each do you want? Whatever gap there is, recognize that it can be closed, and that you can close it. What would things be like if you were to close that gap? What would happen if you climbed a point or two on the Fun scale? What if you could add a point to your level of Fulfillment or Freedom? How would that feel? Pretty good, right? So what one thing can you do right now to help you get more?
By themselves each of the Three F’s are a powerful thing, and can really help to move you forward, enjoy where you are, and feel alive. But when the Three F’s come together . . .well, just hold on to your hat and keys.
Rut? What rut? Good Luck, Rick
George Clooney has affairs with ten or twelve women and is considered the “Sexist Man on the Planet”.
Fame and fortune continues to flow with sponsors begging for his endorsements.
Tiger Woods does the same and may become an “untouchable” in the marketing world. He will lose tens of millions of dollars and maybe more. What was his big mistake? He got married! Tiger felt the need to tie the knot with a beautiful wife and create a perfect family.? No matter what caused him to do this it couldn’t keep him from feeling he had to continue to make conquest after conquest.
Lesson for Baby Boomers.? You are starting your second adult life.? Don’t make the same mistakes you made in the first one.? This is all a part of the “If I only knew then what I know now” lesson.? If you are now single and have the strong desire to date multiple partners, do not get married again!
I always invite your comments.? Rick
Baby Boomer, Susan Boyle exhibits the confidence and focus we all should have.? If you haven’t seen this video, please tale a look: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RxPZh4AnWyk
Some people are watching over and over again.? At 47, Susan knows she has a talent and has been looking for a way to let the rest of the world know about it.? How many of you have given up on your dreams?? Why?? What would it take to put the fire back in you and convince you that you can make the second half of your life, the very best years of your life?
Rick
Sexually active people in their twenties or thirties probably don’t need to relax before having sex.? But if you are single and over forty, there may be many reasons to be uptight and/or nervous before going to bed with your next date.? A few butterflies in the stomach may enhance a sexual encounter, but knots in your stomach do not bode well for a great experience.? Worried about:
You need to relax BEFORE having sex.? A fast and effective way to do this is by using an anchor.? Anchoring is way to trigger mental and physical memories of? a time when you were really calm and confident.
There are many different types of anchoring techniques.? In this situation, a? “resource anchor” is just what we need.? It takes just a little practice to achieve great results.? Start with this exercise:
Always end by pressing your same thumb and forefinger together.? Feel the relaxation flooding back over you.? The best thing about this exercise is that the more you do it the easier it gets.? Try it before going to bed or taking a hot bath, whenever you know you are going to be quickly relaxed.
When setting the anchor, remember these four things:
Now, back to having great sex…? Seize the opportunity when it presents itself.? Eliminate all self-doubt by moving into your confident and relaxed state.? Whenever you want to experience the state that you have anchored (relaxed & confident), simply press that thumb and forefinger together and you’ll go there.
A pretty slick trick, right?? Baby Boomers can use this same technique to relax before giving a big presentation or facing any situation where “relaxed & confident” is the desired state of body and mind.
A Baby Boomers’ Dilemma😕 When is it my turn to enjoy MY life?? I hear this sentiment more and more from my peers who write to me about being bogged down with responsibilities and wanting to “Reclaim their life”.
A very interesting new friend inspired me to write this post.? Please add your comments.
“For years, I have been spending my “non-work” time helping and waiting on others, my husband, my kids and now my parents. How can I get some private time and space for me?”
The bold move is to simply announce: “Every other Saturday is my day and you will all have to take care of yourselves on my day.” Your older kids will think you’ve gone nuts, your husband will think you are having an affair and your parents will think you are being “selfish”. So this is not the ideal approach.
I assume you have noticed that no one says a word when your husband leaves regularly to spend five hours at the golf course. Don’t want to take up golf? Look at your local recreation or senior center and see if anything looks interesting. If your family gets used to you going away at regular times for yoga sessions, knitting lessons or volunteer work, it becomes “your time” and soon, they will quit asking “Where are you going?” and when will you be back?”
My wife can easily spend five hours running errands and going to the grocery store on a Saturday. When her father moved in with us, he was ready to call the police after she had been gone for three hours. “How could she possibly still be shopping?” he would ask. He now accepts “her time” or at worst thinks she is a really slow shopper. The point is, over time, people get used to routines. Start with a regular class or two that everyone understands. They get used to you being gone and when the classes end that time slot has become “your time”.
You may not even want to leave the house but you still want some private time. That will require that you have some private space.If the kids are gone, claim a bedroom and make it your study. Immediately, start locking it so everyone realizes it is off limits. If you don’t have an extra room, look at the closets, a utility room or even a corner of your bedroom. Buy a locking fold down or roll-top desk big enough to hold a computer. You may want to start a family tree or catalog all of your recipes so you will have an answer when they ask what you are always doing on the computer. Again, your time away will soon become part of their routine and they will lose interest. So whether you are chatting with friends, playing solitaire or starting a new business, it has become Your Time ? Your Space.
Rick
